Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!...Am so angry...Went to the Future Needs Review for eldest lad this morning...I managed to speak to social worker before we went in and warned her i would be probably be having a 'go' at head of the base...I told her how fed up i am about this issue this woman has with his hair...Also said she's now demanding he takes a brush into the base to leave there...She was shocked...Anyway we went in and social worker introduced herself to everyone and vice versa...Then head of base handed out her report and talked through it...All the academic side is going well :o) which i already knew from parents night...Then she got to a paragraph which was all about his hair and clothing...She got as far as the first sentence and i interrupted her...
Me: Don't even go there or start about his please
Head of base: Cathy it's matted
Me: No it is NOT, he brushes his hair every morning before school and it is CUT to look like it does. It is called FASHION.
Head of base: Tried to mumble something
Me: If you take a brush to his hair or make derogatory comments on it anymore to him i WILL REPORT you to higher authority
Headmaster: Right we'll move on and get back to this later
Needless to say we did not get back to this issue later...Head of base was shocked when i said i would report her...I mean it though i am not having this woman put my son down...It's called BULLYING...Bit below is what is written in the report...
An ongoing problem for Eldest is his appearance. He often comes to school with very tousled looking hair which can make him a target for teasing and comments. In secondary school especially, teenagers are particularly aware of how they look and can be quite unkind if someone looks different/odd. It hampers his socialisation because appearance is so important. Sometimes it seems that he can be EXTREMELY conscious of his appearance. An example was when he refused to go into classthe day he came in with a big hole in the knee of his jeans. According to Eldest, no one in the minibus noticed or 'had a go' at him as mum had thought. (Blatentlie i never said anything of the sort) He MAY have thought it was a fashion statement originally, althought he denies it categorically, and he seemed to fully realise that having a huge chunk missing out of the knee of your jeans was not considered fashionable for a boy of his age.
Regarding the bit about the jeans i said to him look don't think you should wear them to school...He said but others have holes in jeans and ripped ones on...So i said okies whatever it's up to you...I have no idea what planet this woman is living on because you can BUY jeans already ripped to bits and pay anything between £10 and £150 for the pleasure...It is the height of fashion to wear ripped jeans just now...Stupid woman...I agree with the bit about appearance having to be just right with teenagers that is why he has his hair the way it is...The ONLY person who has a problem with it anywhere he goes is HER and one of the other teachers in the base...EVERYONE else has been complimentary about it...The guys at footie training, fun club, skiing, playscheme were ALL complimentay wether it was another kid or worker or parent...One of the male teachers even asked him where he had it done as he really liked it FFS...Want an idea of how it is just now then picture Charlie from Busted and that's my son...Pre blonde highlights was cut same way just dark brown...I will report her if she doesn't stop this nonsense...She is the one making him feel insecure about his appearance...She's there to get them to integrate into society and surely being fashion conscious is a GOOD sign and very positive...Ohhhhh i so wanted to slap her but luckily for her i was on other side of the room from her or i would have...Wish i'd worn a pair of ripped jeans to go in to meeting too PMSL...Don't have any as they too big LOL...Felt like saying also at least he isn't using so much hairspray on his hair it's stiff as a board like hers ROFL...Now this woman isn't that much older than me, maybe late 40's...I always wonder when she is having a pop at him about his hair/clothes what on earth she makes her 2 sons who are slightly older wear...I also pointed out when both her and future needs woman said they would like him to do more mainstream activities outwith school that i do have 2 other children to consider and i cannot be in 2 places at once and hey i do have a life too kinda...I already had to say to youngest he couldn't go tothe rugby training i found as was at same time as eldest lads skiing lessons...Fortunately after having gone to a sports morning try out he decided he didn't want to do rugby anymore...Actually when i read the above paragraph to both him and his sister they did laugh about the comment on the jeans...They even wanted to know what planet she lived on <G> ...Anyways rant over off to make a few phone calls...Toodle pip for now xx
3 comments:
You sound like John Candy in that film Uncle Buck................. ;-)
lmfaooo caffy!!! well done you!!!! i seriously think that this is more about her issues ,,,,,,i do wonder if perhaps she doesnt have the discipline that she feels she needs to have ,,,n this is her way of ,,,getting it ?? midlife crisis spring to mind <g>
I love that messed up hair look! Had my hair like that a few years ago, until it got too long. And ripped jeans have been in and out of fashion for sooo many years! I remember purposefully ripping holes in my jeans to get the right look! I'm not surprised you were angry, I'd be making sure he was extra messy, and extra trendy, just to wind her up ;o) Silly woman!
Sara x
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