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Wow wonders will never cease....Social work phoned me yesterday morning!!!!!  Am still in shock LOL.....she was going into eldest lads school today to meet him....this was after phoning youngest school to see if she could arrange to see eldest!!!!.....she's coming round to visit here on thurs so tomorrow will be spent on mass tidy and clean up......then review on fri so i guess at least i will know what this person looks like......At least i know previous named social worker had good notes on both lads :o)  This morning has been interesting and a bit worrying at same time.....Went to a talk about sex, sexuality and autism.....person giving the talk didn't beat about the bush and was extremely frank in how and what he spoke about......I know it's hard for them to understand what is going on with hormones etc but it's not exactly easy on a parent either......Sometimes you think it does get easier as they grow up as with any child but this sex thing is going to be a nightmare to try and a) explain b) have to explain to anyone else they come across and c) make them grow up too fast.....From what this mornings speaker said really should have started preparing for this before puberty and actually not let them be children as such at all.....All very complicated and a lot of what any regular kid growing up take for granted doesn't happen automatically for them......youngest has had a girlfriend for over 2 years now though and i do worry he might try to do something inappropriate.....in saying that i really don't think he would.....It's just very sad that in order to help them make an easier transition to adulthood they have to be prepared so early so that it will be taken in <fingers crossed> they really have no childhood......I also find it incredibly sad what speaker said about people with ASD being taught how to be sociable and then when they want to have a boyfriend/girlfriend and want privacy <for the obvious> get told they can't.....this is in residential establishment though and hopefully won't occur with my sons or anyone whose children/young adults i know......I do try to treat them as *normal* as possible.....Hate word normal when someone can define it for me to my satisfaction then i may accept it but just now i refuse to :o)  .......It was interesting talk but could have been doing with having longer talk than just the morning and possibly more specifically geared towards teenagers/young adults.....I did find it funny when speaker said stuff such as interest in trendy clothing/haircuts/good grooming, basically what any regular <like that word> teenager does, usually they have no interest in......Youngest gets dressed in his best trendiest gear, washes and puts on the deoderant to go out on a date.....Eldest would kill me <same as his sis> if i bought him any naff clothes LOL.....Ok he doesn't always want stuff that costs an arm and a leg but that's only because he says we are poor <bless>......If we had the money then yes he would want £100 trainers and £100 jeans etc......Well got a lot to mull over and think about and decided if to attempt talk or not with the boys......I've always been very open with ALL the kids though and neither of the boys have ever shown innappropriate behaviour that could be construed by others as sexual.......Have managed to get some ski gear for eldest for his birthday tomorrow......pondered buying a cake but didn't as only use for it is the actual candles.....Neither him nor his brother will eat cake......will ask him when het gets home from friends if he wants one or not......Toodle pip for now xx